so, i have soo much on my mind, it's really ridiculous. i have a question, is it true what they say, "birds of a feather flock together" or however the saying goes. is that really true? i mean, in a sense i think it is but, then i find myself thinking it's not so true. i, for instance have friends who do certain things that i don't agree with and would NEVER do. i mean, we're the same in other aspects but in some ways we're completely opposites. so, i found out some really disturbing information about my bf's friend who has just started dating one of my REALLY close friends. i mean..i talk to her on a the daily. we email all day and talk on the phone at least 3 times a day. she's like a sister. well, she's dating my bf's friend and my bf just told me that this guy actually LIVES with another girl and the only reason he's talking/dating my friend is because he MIGHT break up with the girl he's living with. what type of crap is that? omgosh. i was so mad when he told me this, for a couple of reasons a) it makes me think that my bf is just as shady seeing as he's fairly close with this guy b) it obviously didn't bother my bf because he proceeded to allow me to hook my friend up with his friend and c) it sux all the way around and i would NEVER let one of his friends get played by one of my friends like that..NEVER. my bf told me that his friend (let's call him C) just moved in with the girl about 3 weeks ago and the funny part about that is he told my friend (let's call her J) that he was moving, but he forgot to mention the fact that he was moving with a girl..instead he said he was moving with his mom sooooo yea. and J is always telling me that he NEVER answers her calls. he'll answer her text messages but never her calls. this whole situation just infuriates me. i dunno why but it almost makes me wanna just stop talking to my bf cause i'm so disturbed by all this..lol. not to mention we're having issues of our own and after being with someone for 2 almost 3 years i really think it should be more about enjoying being with this person and this person adding to the quality of your life. i'm so over arguing, and feeling insecure and questioning his motives/actions/words. i mean..is marriage like this? is it really something you have to put that much work into? i always think that when you're with "the one" it won't really be this difficult. you'll make it work together and it won't seem like a team effort..it'll just mesh and work itself out. maybe i'm naive though..i dunno. i guess i'm so young that the some of the things i liked or would tolerate 2 years ago...really just aren't acceptable anymore and i'd like to see more growth in a relationship rather than a stagnant relationship were only one person is really, truly happy. ugh. relationships just suck. i've never really been single and i think that's part of the problem. i was with my very first bf from the age of 16 until i was 20 and before we were completely done i had already started catching feelings for my current. so, in all honesty, maybe that's the issue. i don't even know who i am outside of a relationship. this is all no bueno. i gotta figure it out but believe me, it's way easier said than done. okay..now that i'm done with that tangent..what should i do? should i tell my friend? i mean, really they're adults and to be quite honest they're moving wayyy too fast but, i just feel guilty. i want to just tell her stop talking to him without an explanation but that's not gonna work. and i'm a girl, i know how it is, even if she swears on the moon and the stars she won't tell him, she will and psh, i cannot blame her cause believe me i would too. but, i just know if i open my mouth there will be major issues between my bf and i because, essentially he violated his friends trust by telling me. what makes me even more mad is the fact that i LIKED this friend. i thought he was a good guy and told my friend about him wayyy before my party in hopes that she'd like him and now look.
on another note, i'm probably gonna go see baby mama tonight with J..lol. that's the one thing i'm looking forward to because this week has been rough and it's only wednesday. but, it's funny because earlier this week i was so stressed, really worried about a certain situation and finally had to tell myself that it's in God's hands and it'll work out the way HE wants it to. It may not necessarily be what i want to happen but it'll work out. I ended up relaxing and not stressing out about it and this morning i received an email that basically put everything in perspective. the situation not only worked out the way I wanted it to work out but obviously this was the Lord's plan too. He never, ever abandons me and it's so comforting to know that i can cast my fears, worries aside because no matter WHAT, it'll all be taken care of. now, let's see how He wants this C& J situation taken care of :)
3 comments:
definitely tell your friend. if your bf gets mad explain to him that girls come first.
Oh my gosh, I'm glad I am not in your shoes! I'm so sorry that you've been placed, unintentionally, in the middle of a mess. Since you're seeking advice I'll freely give mine! If I were in the position that 'J' is in, unknowingly dating a guy that lives with another girl, I would want to know, especially since she is such a good friend of yours. It would be difficult, but I believe worth it. If she finds out that you knew and didn't tell her, I imagine that her feelings would be very hurt and a trust issue may emerge from the wreckage.
I hope that you can find yourself, as cliche as that saying is. I have to admit, being single, it isn't much easier to do without a significant other. It's bothersome, tiring, and stressful, but I'm hoping it will pay off and soon!
Good luck Faith!
dnt tell her because essentially you're breaking your trust with your boyfriend and look at it this way, there is a possibility that you would have never known.
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